Hope When Life Falls Apart 1 Peter 4

Pastor Dan Walker, PhD, MDiv

Introduction: Finding Hope When Everything Seems to Break

This morning we’re going to be talking about having Hope When Life Falls Apart. Sometimes life falls apart not because we did something wrong, but because we’re doing something right. In 2001, two young American women, Dayna Curry and Heather Mercer were serving in Afghanistan. They were working with a Christian humanitarian organization providing medical care, food and kindness in Jesus’ name.

As they offered help, they quietly shared their faith with people who were hungry for hope. Then everything changed without warning. They were arrested by the Taliban and accused of spreading Christianity. Dayna and Heather were imprisoned by one of the harshest regimes on earth.

They endured 100 days of threats, uncertainty and spiritual pressure. But while they were physically confined, they were spiritually free. They worshipped, prayed and encouraged the other prisoners. They found that their cell had become a sanctuary.

Finally after months of imprisonment, they were rescued by anti-Taliban forces supported by a US-led coalition as the Taliban collapsed. The women came out of their ordeal, not bitter or broken, but full of the joy of the Lord. Their story, written in their book Prisoners of Hope, became a testimony that even when everything falls apart, God is still faithful.

2 Corinthians 4:8–9 (ESV) We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed;

In these verses Paul is talking about the reality of the Christian life. Even though we may be afflicted, life will not crush us. Even though we may be perplexed about what is going, we will not despair. This is the reality of a life anchored in Christ, the pain is real, but the hope is stronger.

Matthew 5:11–12 (ESV) “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, …

Jesus talks about suffering from other people insulting you, persecuting you or lying about you. Rather than being upset, Jesus tells us to rejoice and be glad, for He is with us blessing us and we have a great reward in heaven. That’s the kind of blessing that Dayna and Heather experienced.

Not comfort in a jail cell, but closeness to Jesus and an eternal reward. Another promise that carried them and can carry us is found in the words of the prophet Isaiah.

Isaiah 43:2 (ESV) When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.

God never says we won’t face fire in our lives, He promises us that we won’t face it alone. That’s the message we’re going to look at today from 1 Peter 4. Peter isn’t sugarcoating suffering, he’s showing us what it looks like to suffer with Christ.

To find joy in the fire and entrust our lives to Jesus while continuing to do good. So, if life seems to have fallen apart around you, or if you’re close to someone hurting, God has a word for you today.

This passage holds a truth that the world cannot offer. God meets us in our suffering with presence, purpose and power. So, let’s see how to find hope when life falls apart.

Expect the Fire and Rejoice in Christ

1 Peter 4:12 (ESV) Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you.

Peter first of all reminds us that we as believers are beloved, greatly loved by God. He confronts us natural human response to suffering: surprise. We are not to be surprised because fiery trials are part of the Christian life.

Suffering is part of God’s refining or testing work in our lives. The fire doesn’t destroy us, rather it purifies and makes us stronger. Rather than being surprised we should expect the fire, it’s part of God’s plan.

1 Peter 4:13 (ESV) But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.

Suffering for Christ is not just a burden, it’s a blessing because we share in Christ’s sufferings. When we suffer with Him, we can also rejoice with Him for what He is doing in our lives. Peter adds that we will be glad when Jesus’ glory is revealed.

Jesus’ glory will be revealed to us either when we pass away and enter into heaven or when He returns to take us to be with Him forever. There will be a day when all pain and suffering will forever cease in the presence of Jesus. Jesus suffered and died in this life and entered into glory and eternal life that we also will one day experience.

As believers, we are not just living for this life, we are living for eternity. We must expect the fire and when it comes, rejoice with Jesus.

Application: Examining the Heart When Life Falls Apart

When life falls apart, we mustn’t panic. Let’s take time with God to examine our hearts. Sometimes life falls apart because we’ve sinned, and God’s is warning us to repent.

If so, we must repent of our sin and come running back to Jesus and His embrace. But oftentimes, life falls apart because of no fault of our own. Remember that God has promised that we will never be alone in life.

He is there with and for us, so let’s pour out our heart to Him, take courage and rejoice. We rejoice not for the suffering, but for what God is doing in our lives through it.

This passage is not just for us when we go through trials. This week let’s encourage someone who is struggling in their faith or simply with the difficulties of life. Send a message, make a call or pray with someone who needs hope.

If someone is missing at church for a while, that is a surefire sign that something is wrong. Church is not optional for us as believers, it is essential for our lives. Let’s speak life into the fire another person is experiencing.

Encourage them to rejoice, not in the pain, but in Jesus’ presence with us through it.

Don’t Be Ashamed – You Bear His Name

1 Peter 4:14 (ESV) If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you.

Receiving insults for being a Christian is not pleasant, but it actually is an honor. We are blessed when we’re hated for following Jesus. Why? Because the Holy Spirit rests on those who suffer for His name.

When we’re being verbally or physically attacked for our faith, God is with us. The presence of God brings blessing into our lives, providing protection for us.

1 Peter 4:15 (ESV) But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler.

There are two kinds of suffering, either suffering for doing evil or suffering for doing good. Suffering for doing evil brings no blessing, other than a wakeup call to repent. The list of doing evil in this verse ranges from murder to being a meddler.

Suffering for evil deeds can involve criminal penalties or simple being rejected by others for not minding our own business. We must make sure that what were are suffering is on account of following Jesus in order to receive a blessing from God.

1 Peter 4:16 (ESV) Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name.

If we suffer as a Christian, for doing good and godly things, we should not be ashamed. The early church wore the name Christian at great cost. Peter urges them and us to not shrink back from insults or slander.

Rather, we are to glorify God in the name of Jesus. We mustn’t let shame silence our witness; we must boldly shine with God’s glory. When we’re insulted for being a Christian and following Jesus, we should be encouraged to continue to let our light shine ever brighter.

Insults mean that our witness if having an impact on people’s lives. If there are those who insult us, there will be others that receive the message. Don’t be ashamed, we bear His name.

Application: Bearing the Name of Jesus Without Shame

Where are we tempted to hide our faith to avoid conflict or pain? At work? On social media? Among skeptical friends or family? Each of those areas is to be our mission field for spreading God’s truth.

When we spread God’s truth, there are two basic responses. Either a person will accept the truth or reject the truth. It’s a little more complicated than that, but let’s keep it simple.

Those who reject God’s truth by insulting us in one way or another still heard the truth. And sometimes, that truth will continue to grow inside of them until their hearts are changed.

But even if that never happens, we are blessed and God’s Spirit rests upon us. This week let’s take a step to bear the name of Jesus boldly. Let’s invite someone to church.

Share with someone else how Jesus is helping through our own fire. When obedience hurts, let’s remember, God’s Spirit rests on us.

Trust God by Continuing to Do Good

1 Peter 4:17 (ESV) For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the outcome for those who do not obey the gospel of God?

The Greek word for judgement here means discipline, correction or refinement. On other words, God purifies His people through trials. The judgement here is not condemnation but refining discipline.

When our faith remains strong despite going through suffering or fire, it proves that our faith is genuine. God is serious about holiness in His church, about each of us becoming more like Jesus. The warning for those outside Christ is even more sobering.

1 Peter 4:18 (ESV) And “If the righteous is scarcely saved, what will become of the ungodly and the sinner?”

This verse is a quote from Proverbs 11:31. It reminds us that salvation is not light or casual, it’s costly. If even the saved are refined by fire, what hope is there for the unrepentant.

The unspoken answer is that there is no hope for the ungodly and sinners unless they repent. God continually tests and refines those who have made a commitment to Him. Unfortunately, there are some who fall away from their once held faith and fail the test.

This verse should increase our urgency to allow suffering to refine us. And should increase our urgency to spread God’s truth to unbelievers around us.

1 Peter 4:19 (ESV) Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.

This verse is the bottom line in the entire passage. When we suffer according to God’s will, not because of our own sin, we must entrust ourselves to God. Everything that happens in our lives is allowed by God for our good.

God is both our Redeemer and our Creator. He made us, He knows us and He can be trusted completely. Notice those last three words which are very important.

“While doing good.” We are suffering, we are entrusting our souls to God, and we must keep on doing good. Don’t let the fire make us bitter, let it make us bold.

Our trust in God in the midst of suffering is evidenced by doing good for others. Trust God by continuing to do good.

Application: Continuing in Obedience Even When It Hurts

God has called each one of us as believers to good works. Is suffering or fire in our lives tempting us to retreat or isolate ourselves? This week let’s make a decision to move forward in faith.

Volunteer again or for the first time. Give generously even when the bank account is low. Love someone who is difficult to love.

Keep doing good, not because it’s easy, but because we want to please our Creator, Jesus. He is walking with us through every day of our lives.

He is holding our souls as we obey and do the good, He is calling us to do.

Conclusion: Holding On to Hope When Life Falls Apart

When Dayna Curry and Heather Mercer were finally released from prison, they didn’t leave their faith in that prison. They came out stronger, more resolved and more in love with Jesus than ever before.

The fire they went through did not consume them, it refined them. And their testimony is still giving others hope today. That’s what God wants for us.

He doesn’t minimize the pain. He doesn’t pretend the trials won’t come. Instead, He prepares us: Don’t be surprised. Don’t be ashamed. Rejoice.

Entrust your soul to a faithful Creator. Keep on doing good. Because when life falls apart, it’s easy and tempting to pull back.

To isolate, to doubt. But Peter calls us to press in. To lean into Jesus. To shine brighter.

To do good even when it hurts. So what do we do when the fire comes, as it will?

We keep praying for that friend, even when they mock our faith. We keep inviting our neighbors to church, even if they’ve said no before.

We give when it stretches us. We serve when it’s inconvenient and we don’t feel like doing it. We love when it’s costly.

We suffer with joy, not because its fun, but because Jesus is in the fire with us. And when the outside world watches us suffer with hope, they’ll see something they can’t explain.

They’ll catch a glimpse of Jesus who loves them. So if your world is shaking this morning, hold on.

If your heart is heavy, press in. If your life is falling apart, lift your eyes, because your Savior is there with you.

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